The Revenge Fuck

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affair, betrayal, cheater, fuck, infidelity, marriage, revenge, sex, wayward spouse, whore

It’s been said that if your partner cheats on you, and your ‘solution’ goes something along the lines of ‘fucking someone to get back at them’, then your marriage is pretty much over.
My feeling is your spouse already made that call when they decided to shit all over your marriage.
What a betrayed spouse does after that is fair game.
The betrayed spouse – the one who remained FAITHFUL – is the one who believed in the marriage, the bond, in love.
The cheating spouse is the selfish asshole who said “Fuck that, I’m gonna go get me some fun!” and destroyed their loving partner in the process.
As a betrayed spouse, I’ve often thought about a ‘Revenge Fuck’, or ‘Revenge Affair’. See how my husband likes THAT!
The problem is, I’m a decent person and would never sleep with anyone other than the man I am married to. I cannot even imagine lying naked next to someone who isn’t my husband!
But let’s say for a minute that I was the kind of person interested in The Revenge Fuck. Who would it be? Would it be someone I know? A friend? A neighbour? A dad at my kids’ school? Someone I’d meet online? Someone I’d flirt with in a club?
I wonder if any other betrayed spouses out there have considered the ultimate revenge and who they might fuck if things were different.
Yes, your marriage would likely be over but how would you feel inflicting the same level of suffering on your cheating-ass partner? The thought is tempting, I’ll be honest.
But I just don’t have it in me.
I wish my husband had been just as fucking thoughtful.

Because of My Husband

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affair, betrayal, betrayed spouse, cheater, cheating, counselling, couple, divorce, emotional affair, hate, husband, infidelity, other woman, trust, wayward spouse, whore

Because of my husband, I no longer know what is real and what is not.

Because of my husband, I treat everything he tells me as a lie, or at least a part-truth.

Because of my husband, I question everything, and nothing escapes my suspicion.

Because of my husband, I have to remember take anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medication every day.

Because of my husband, I’ve lost 35 pounds and am reminded of his affair every time I see my new reflection.

Because of my husband, I have cut off my friendships because I cannot bear to be close and loving with anyone right now.

Because of my husband, I no longer believe in happily ever after.

Because of my husband, I thought about killing myself.

Because of my husband, I am angry at the world.

Because of my husband, I have constant flashbacks to his message to the whore telling her he wanted to put his tongue in her pussy.

Because of my husband, I pray I can make it through a day without triggers that send me to new depths of despair.

Because of my husband, I wish I was capable of having an affair so he could see how much it fucking hurts…but I simply don’t have it in me.

Because of my husband, I no longer believe in love that lasts forever.

Dear Betrayed Spouses reading this list, please feel free to add your own statements below.

Want to Avoid Relationship Breakdown?

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affair, husband, infidelity, marriage

I was cleaning out my wallet today and found this crumpled up piece of paper I had ripped out of a magazine some time ago and stuck in there.

Clearly I thought it was profound and kept it.

If it helps anyone, here it is.